Personal Development Gateway is the gateway to achieve your goals. Our goals call us to become a better version of ourselves: a version of us who cultivates internal love, peace, freedom and joy. And when we do, we are in a position to make the world a better place, a place filled with external love, peace, freedom and joy. Let’s make this world a better place together.
Vision
A world where ignorant living has been replaced with wise people who make the world a better place – a place of wisdom.
Mission
To coach and heal people to become a better version of them, who can transform their rock bottom to a turning point and achieve their goals with permanent results, so that they can live their dream life.
Core Values
Life is about experiences, emotions, feelings, expression, growth, manifestation, connection, etc. All life (humans, animals, plants and beings in other realms) is precious. We all matter. We all share the same universal signature from the minute DNA in our bodies to the larger galaxies. ‘Life’ is the first core value because that’s who we are. We are beings with a physical body and a mental body (consciousness and mental factors including emotions). At PDG we respect all life. And together we can make this world a better place to live.
Let's Get To Know Our Founder, Nadeera Wanigasooriya
Even though I coach and heal people to become a better version of them so that they can achieve their goals and live their dream life, I would have been the last person you would have come to.
Hello PDG Journeyer,
First Rock Bottom
In 2015, I hit rock bottom in my life – in every aspect of my life. I was studying medicine in China while living alone in a single apartment, away from the student dormitory. I was finding it hard to pay the tuition and accommodation fees. I would call my mom every day and the only conversation between us was about ‘how to pay the fees’. I was either desperately begging, “Do something so that I will be able to take my next exam and have a roof over my head” or I was fuming with anger that I was shouting at her, “Why don’t you just borrow money from someone or rent out the building!”
My mom however was fighting her way through our vehicle-spare-parts business, which too had hit a rock bottom. She had no support at this time: her support had left her 10 years ago… My dad passed away when I was only 13 years young. The only male in our family had left us, and my Mom had to take on both feminine and masculine energy to help us survive. And to make things more difficult for us, I was unable to make money while living in China; if you are on student visa, you are prohibited from doing a part time job. There were times where I reached into all my jacket pockets to see if I could find at least one Yuan.
Moreover, my health was at its worst. I had got Urti Caria, and the only time I was not scratching was if I fell asleep. My lover, who was doing his internship in medicine, suggested that I take Prednisolone – an anti-inflammatory drug. The next day I went to the pharmacy, described my health status and asked for prednisolone. The pharmacist handed me the medicine saying, “meitian sanci chi san yao”. Okay, that sounded a bit crazy: take 3 tablets 3 times a day! 9 tablets per day! But these tablets were very tiny, so…
As time went on, something horrible was happening inside my body. If tomorrow is supposed to be my Pharmacology exam, then today I was killing myself to study despite my health condition. That’s when my Mom called and I just broke down, “Mom, I don’t know what’s happening! I don’t feel well and on top of all this I have my final paper tomorrow!”.
“Nadee, you should go to the hospital now, don’t delay. I am feeling helpless. Please listen to me: call a friend and go to the hospital.” she was pleading me. But no, my studies are more important: I was the student who put her studies before herself; I was the student who studied the text books, made short notes and highlighted the important points; I was the student who studied without sleep. Do you expect her to go to the hospital now when she has an exam tomorrow? “Mom I’ll go to the hospital after my exam”…
Wham! I sat up in bed at the speed of light because an electric bolt had just run through me. After the phone call and somewhere during studies I had fallen asleep. And here I was sitting on my bed startled. The only way I could describe it was that I had an epilepsy attack, because that was what I had been studying.
That was a wakeup call. That was when I knew that I needed to pay immediate attention to my health. I went to the streets, stopped a taxi and asked the driver to drive me to the hospital. Unfortunately, the doctors had gone home leaving me feeling helpless. I started crying and telling the other patients how I am having difficulty breathing. The man next to me guided me to the emergency hospital where they checked my ECG and blood pressure. Result: normal. The doctor suggested that I do a few more tests, but I had no money for that. I left the hospital that day without an answer…
Back at my apartment, I continued studying Pharmacology. That’s when the words ‘Prednisolone is contraindicated for Diabetes’ stood out from my laptop screen. I stared back at those words for I had found the answer to what was going on inside my body. The next day I did not go to the exam, instead I went to the nearby diabetic clinic.
As the Urti Caria went away, so did my lover… But, I am not someone who easily gives up. Out of desperation, I began digging very deep to find answers. I turned to the internet – the vast ocean of knowledge. Whenever I have a question, I would type it in to the Google search bar. This time: ‘How to prevent a break up?’ I searched the internet like a desperate miner drilling for gold.
However, after a while, I broke up with my lover. I remember bawling my eyes out while lying on the bed. I was drowning in my own tears. I was gasping for oxygen because I could barely take a full breath in. And being in a long distant relationship, I could not catch a hold of him. But I did catch a hold of the internet once again and into the Google search bar I typed, ‘How can I get my ex-back’. And this time, I was a desperate miner drilling for gold.
This was a time in my life where I was broke and broken; the time where I hit rock bottom in every aspect of my life simultaneously. However, this rock bottom was the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.
First Turning Point
During my quest for answers, I not only found gold, but a gem of knowledge, which I couldn’t find in college. I discovered myself, I became self-aware…
I realized that I am not just limited to this physical body; I am a spiritual being having a human experience and I have this amazing tool called the mind, which by the way was out of service for 23 years. I realized that all this while I was being negative, complaining and simply reacting. And it only took a moment to become a positive person. And the desperation turned into curiosity…
Next, I made a decision: I am going to become a better version of myself and I am going to achieve my dreams. With that, my life took a 180 degree turn. On the 14th of February 2015 I started dating myself. My relationship status changed to ‘I am single, but not available’.
Furthermore, I started blending together raw vegetables, leaves and nuts, and consumed it. Right now, I myself am feeling disgusted and wondering how I shoved it down my throat. But when you have no other option, and your life is in danger, then anything becomes possible – even to take leave from University. Yes, I finally put myself before my studies!
Additionally, I decided that during this time I would start making money online; that I don’t want to be a burden to my mom; that it’s time I become independent.
I came back to Sri Lanka end of 2015. And I went all in! I invested my time, energy and money on my personal development: I spent the remaining money on purchasing an internet marketing system, and personal development courses and seminars; I woke up every morning to learn and implement them until I went to bed; I was feeling excited and put in all my positive energy to transform myself. And with my results, I knew that this is what people need! I realized that just like how I was focusing on the visible – the physical – everyone else is too. However, there is another world beyond what we see; and I wanted to open the eyes of everyone else in to this other world.
I quit medical college in my final year. A lot of people now ask me, ‘why didn’t you complete it?’ ‘Do you regret it?’ My answer: Yes, becoming a doctor was my one and only ambition since I was in primary 1, but no, I don’t regret it. I didn’t want to waste another year in University when I had decided that I didn’t want to prescribe pharmaceutical drugs to my patients and instead heal people naturally, and I want to become an entrepreneur to do something bigger and better for this world.
Hence, on December of 2015, I began my mission to coach and heal people naturally to become a better version of them who can achieve their goals so that they can live their dream life, with the core intention to make the world a better place – a place filled with love, peace, freedom and joy. This, is the conception of Personal Development Gateway.
Second Rock Bottom
With my first turning point in life, I became this extremely positive person: I would not allow myself to entertain a negative thought; I would wake up early morning and write 10 things I am grateful for; I would avoid negative conversations; I would have my ear phones on and listen to personal development audios; I would visualize my ideal outcome while feeling the feelings I would have once I achieved them; I said yes to every opportunity where I could explore my hidden talents; and those opportunities opened a gateway to other opportunities. And people would see me as an optimistic and outgoing lady.
However, positive thinking would only work temporarily. And these same opportunities where I shined like a nearby giant star, triggered me that I couldn’t let myself shine any more brighter like a small distant star…
One place of opportunity for leadership and speaking was Toastmasters. I was in high demand to not just host club meetings but also club contests, area contests as well as division contests. However, I still had anxiety when conversations turned to something I felt uncomfortable expressing. And, I froze when I was put on the spot to talk about a happy moment in my life. It triggered me.
Moreover, I was still single but ready to mingle. Hence, I was open to dating. If there is anything I learnt about relationships from my previous turning point, that is, how to get my ex back and how to flirt! I didn’t need to get my ex back but I was ready to flirt my way into a romantic relationship… However, I soon I realized that I was still pleasing people to be liked, I was still feeling desperate for love and attention and I broke down when a date didn’t transition into a romantic relationship. It triggered me.
Back at home, I still got angry and turned it towards my mom, I still turned to food as a way of escaping uncomfortable emotions, and I still had trouble sleeping. It triggered me.
As for my career – PDG, I could not get myself to relaunch this website with authenticity because I wanted to share my story but I wasn't ready. It triggered me.
Why? Why was I seeking perfectionism? Why was I feeling desperate? Why was I escaping from uncomfortable emotions? Why couldn’t I share my story?
Clearly there’s something missing... What’s the missing piece to the puzzle of life? On the surface, I was fine, I was amazing! People would see my outward appearance and manner of behavior and assume that I am a perfect lady with a perfect life. But, deep inside me was a broken person. Broken to the point that I was dissociating myself from my body and the surrounding reality. My mask was falling off…
It was 2018 and I had hit my 2nd rock bottom. But it wasn’t as bad as the first because I knew better than to just react. My old friend came to my rescue again: Through the internet, I got help. I enrolled in one month of life coaching for myself.
And soon again I started picking up the broken pieces…
Second Turning Point
Have you ever been told to keep a secret? Have you been told ‘do not tell this to anyone’? Have you been silenced?
When I was 4 years young, I was sexually abused. And the abuser said, “Do not tell your Mom”. What does a 4 year young baby do when they are told to do or not do something? They say, ‘Okay’.
I continuously found myself in situations where people would touch me inappropriately. But I kept silent… That’s all I knew to do.
However, even a 4 year young baby knows when something is not right. I tried to tell my mom and dad on several occasions, but the words wouldn’t come out. I felt ignored. I felt hurt. And that turned into anger. I was angry that my mom didn’t look after me well. I was angry that she was not paying attention to the signals I was giving her.
It was hard to cope with. I remember going to my room, kneeling down on my bed, looking outside through the window and into the trees and calling out to the nature. “Nature, please help me. I am not going to punish those people; they will be punished naturally.” And I remember giving it all up to nature. And that was how I survived it.
My life went on and at 13 years of age, my dad passed away. If there is anything I regret in my life, it’s this – even more than the abuse.
All the stress and suppressed emotions manifested as dis-ease in my body. At 15 years young, I contracted a fever. I was unable to even walk: I was crawling to the washroom. I was unable to see clearly: The people and objects were blurred. My Mom wanted to take me to the hospital but I denied. Once I could stand on my feet, she took me to the nearby private hospital and they admitted me. The Doctor came to my room with my reports. The nurse asked for my finger, pricked it with a needle, drew out a drop of blood and placed it on a small machine…
“You have diabetes” was the doctor’s next words. I was calm, I welcomed it, and in fact I was excited to share it with my friend who had called me previously to say that she was coming to see me. Until… my aunt came. She told me, “Do not tell anyone”. And what would a teenage child do when they are told to do or not do something? They question. I questioned my mom as to why aunt said that. I was confused. My mom replied, “Well, it’s not like anyone other than the doctor can help us, so it’s alright to not share it”. Unlike me, she was shocked to hear that I have diabetes. She was just recovering from her husband’s death. And here is another heavy load on her shoulders.
That day, my friend came to see me. But my calmness, welcoming nature and excitement was taken over by worry, fear and shame. This was the beginning of my social anxiety: One Internal Child wanted to share it, but then, after my aunt’s advice there came into existence another opposing Internal Child. She had taken on the belief that if she tells this to anyone, she would not be accepted, that she would be rejected, that there is something wrong with her.
I went back to school. But I was no longer the same person. I avoided talking about why I was absent because I hate to lie! The only way I could cope with it was to build a wall around me so that no one could get near me. If no one could get near me, I can avoid having conversation. And they wouldn’t know that something is wrong with me. They wouldn’t reject me. I would still be accepted.
Now of course, this was happening at a subconscious level; I didn’t have the clarity that I have now. My past unfavorable incidences were haunting me at a subconscious level. Whenever I got triggered, I would react with anxiety and dissociation. Hence, no amount of positive thinking was going to get me out of this mess. In fact, thinking positive was like me wearing a mask to cover up my truth. It was me invalidating what was really going on inside. Once again, this new found goodness turned my desperation into curiosity. It was when I created space and time for myself to go deep into my subconscious mind where all my limiting beliefs, repressed and suppressed emotions and buried memories lie, that I began to heal. This, is my 2nd turning point in life.
I finally broke the silence.
Moreover, I am no longer desperate for external love and attention. I am able to give that to myself. And the beauty of this is that no one can take this away from me.
I am able to sleep and wake up at my ideal time. Prior to this, this was a nightmare! As a result, I am able to take action according to my schedule.
Yes, it wasn’t an easy ride. However, I got to experience what doesn’t work and what works in personal development. I practiced energy healing and emotional healing on myself during this turning point. Hence, I was able to combine all my years of learning and life experiences to nurture Personal Development Gateway. I became an energy healer and an emotional healer for others. And finally I gave birth to this website, where I coach and heal you to become a better version of yourself so that you can achieve your goals and live your dream life. And when you do, you are in a position to make the world a better place – a place filled with love, peace, freedom and joy.
Third Rock Bottom
When I thought all is going well, that's when I realized that there is one more missing piece to the puzzle of life...
After my 2nd turning point, I was ready to go all in on Personal Development Gateway to help others. Moreover, I was ready to change my relationship status to in a relationship, because through emotional healing I released the limiting belief of 'I am not good enough for a man because I was sexually abused' to 'I am good enough regardless of what others did to me because what they did was about them and not about me'. I was ready to meet my man. And I did!
Not only that, but I wanted to be a mom one day as well. As a lady, time is ticking…
However, I ended giving all my energy to the relationship, to help him with his dream to help others, and trying to combine our work. I ended up losing touch with myself and deviated from my work.
On the other hand, having grown from my previous turning points, I was very much self-aware the whole time. I was consciously aware that I was saying yes to everything that my internal self was screaming no to.
I was crying because I was in so much pain and when it really got worse, I asked archangel Raphael to free me from this pain. And the next day, my man said that we aren't compatible according to Vedic astrology. What?
I was ready to hear this but it still shocked me. There were no tears though: I was just blankly staring at the laptop screen after my man and I ended the video call.
My mom came up to me to invite me for lunch, but she noticed something was wrong, "what happened?"
I got the words out of my mouth, "I think my man just broke up with me saying that we aren't compatible even though he didn't mention the word breakup. But you know what, I actually found myself and I am not broken. He lost me."
I was still shocked that I skipped my lunch as I had no appetite. Instead, I typed in all of the red flags that I had ignored.
Again, I was very much aware of what was happening within me. I knew that the shock is a defense to the sadness that I need to grieve. Remember I said that my 2nd rock bottom was easier than the 1st because I had the tools from my 1st turning point – Personal development and awareness of the mind? Well, it turned out that my 3rd rock bottom is even easier than the 2nd because I now had the tools from my 2nd rock bottom as well – emotional healing and energy healing. I continued with no tears for 3 days, and on the 3rd, I grieved!
My rock bottoms never involve one life category. I hit rock bottom is all life categories simultaneously…
I experienced an intense pain on my right upper abdomen that radiated to the lower right abdomen and right mid back. No matter what position I changed to, it didn’t go away. I was admitted to the hospital and I was diagnosed with pyelonephritis – bacterial infection of my right kidney.
I was receiving treatment for the infection but I experienced episodes of hypoglycemia. The nurses nor the doctors had no idea what was happening. And after I recovered from pyelonephritis, I was discharged from the hospital and was asked to continue the antibiotics for 1 more week.
I was glad to be home and to see my pet dog. As for my health, my mom would sense that something is wrong and wake up every night to find me in a hypoglycemic attack. She’d feed me glucose and help me regain consciousness. However, on the last day of the antibiotics, I didn’t regain my consciousness and she had to call the emergency ambulance. I was taken to the hospital, where I regained my consciousness.
After 1 week, I stopped the antibiotics and the hypoglycemic attacks stopped. …Didn’t the doctors know that antibiotics are contraindicated for diabetes?
Additionally, I wanted to get purple highlights for my hair to boost my external happiness, so I reached out to a friend who is a hairdresser and I shared the image of how I wanted my hair. On the day of coloring my hair, she visited my place with a maroon color and ill-equipped.
While in operation she asked, “Shall I use this hair divider or shall I do it without it?” I have no idea about makeup because I detest using makeup as I like to look natural. Plus, since I don’t have experience on hair coloring, that’s why I asked her to do it for me. So at this point I expected her to use her expertise to make my hair resemble the picture I had shown her. However, I intuitively knew that if I am to do it, I could do it without the hair divider, so I suggested that.
Next, as for the sections for the highlight, she asked, “how much of hair shall I use for each highlight?” as she picked up a little strand of hair. I was thinking, it’s too little, but again I hoped she knew how much to take. I suggested, “Maybe take a little more?...” …
All the while my intuition was telling me that my hair is not going to turn out the way I wanted it. Turned out, my intuition was right!
My 3rd rock bottom had me wanting to get back with my ex, create a membership site for my clients and wanting my black hair back!
However, I was about to find out that I was living in a dream world…
Third Turning Point
I was at a place where I was trying to figure out the reality of life. Right after the breakup I realized that my man changed. However, I was also supportive of his decision because with the excuses he was giving me, he had to give attention to his family and pets, who needed him. I, on the other hand, started my mission to find the reality of life…
With my 1st turning point, I had decided to not label myself into a religion and detached from being called a Buddhist, but be spiritual instead. Here’s why: religion is a belief system that we buy into because our parents are that religion. Hence, I chose to realize the truth for myself…
During my 2nd turning point - although I had heard about the term soul before - I was curious to find out who it really is within me...
Fast forward, I noticed how my turning points and realizations are similar to the Buddha’s. While I was doing my emotional healing, during my 2nd turning point, my Claire-cognizance knew that the Buddha too allowed himself to process the emotions to understand them. Later, I shared my emotional healing process with a Buddhist monk, who said that it’s what the Buddha taught as Vipassana meditation.
Out of curiosity, after my 3rd rock bottom, I dived into the Buddha’s higher teaching. Previously, where I was turned off by his dhamma, this time, it was different… And it’s fascinating because he started seeking the truth at the age of 30, and I was 30! There is a significance about 29.5 Earth years because it’s equivalent to 1 Saturn year. And Saturn is a wise planet that takes you through rock bottoms, which I experienced at 29.5 years, in order for you to realize the reality!
Through my life experiences, I realized the reality of life. I saw how my ex changed. As I analyze this, it’s evident that everything in this universe is changing. Nothing is permanent. Everything is temporary. My ex’s physical body is changing. How do I know? Look at him when he was a baby and look at him now, and look at him when he doubles his current age. Although we might like to stay young, we can’t control aging. Our physical body ages.
Moreover, the mind… This changes too. If not, my ex would still be here.
And what about the soul? The Buddha said there’s no permanent being called the soul.
I am not someone who buys into anyone. No-one. I choose to realize the truth myself. I also have the ability to understand someone else's point of view and link ideas together. At this point, I have come to realize the existence of the body and mind but no soul. And what people refer to as soul is actually an illusion of an elevated level of the mind that has limited them from seeing beyond.
Towards the end of my 3rd rock bottom my man and I got back together but this time it was different... I realized we weren't on the same page as for the foundation of the relationship and I would soon come out of the illusion I was living in...
If my ex’s body and mind are changing, it’s not permanent. So why am I holding onto a temporary source of pleasure? I’d rather experience a state of permanence.
Hence, what I just shared with you about my ex’s changing body and mind applies to myself too. My body and mind are changing and hence it’s not permanent. So why even stay attached to myself?
The moment I let go of my ex was the moment I let go of the immoral mental factor of lust. It was the moment I let go of not just my ex but needing or wanting any man in my life. It was the moment I truly felt free. Freedom from my own mental prison of defilements. Then, I experienced a blissful state of joy.
By now, you already know that about me that I transform my rock bottoms to a turning point with my curiosity to learn, implement and share. If I don’t learn Vedic astrology, my turning point would not be complete.
Vedic astrology has blown me away with its accuracy. All my life experiences that you just read, I read it in my horoscope! My mouth was wide open the moment I started reading my horoscope and it still continues to be opened, so if we ever meet and my mouth is wide open, you know why.
Being an astrologer now I can help you understand your life. Being someone who no longer lives in a dream world but aligned with the reality of life, I can help you understand life at a deeper level.
In 2025, it’ll soon be my 10 year anniversary of being on my personal development journey. I am more than ever ready to take PDG to the next level and launch the one and only Personal Development Gateway Journeyership to coach and heal you to become a better version of yourself so that you can – not just come out of your rock bottom – but transform your rock bottom to a turning point, and achieve your goals – not just with temporary results – but permanent results that stick, so that you can live your dream life.
Additionally, I realized that the PDG vision is not to make the world a place filled with love, but a place filled with wisdom. With wisdom, there will definitely be love and compassion but not the other way round. With wisdom the world will be a better place.
It's Your Turn
I’ve dedicated my life to find the solutions to my problems and yours. Since leaving university during my 1st rock bottom, I have never worked in a job for anyone. Instead, I continued my personal development journey while coaching others in their personal development for free most of the time. Money was always a struggle but I continued to carry on because of the PDG mission and vision.
I adore how my personal development turned out. I went from knowing about only the body to becoming aware of the mind in my first turning point. This is also when I experienced the 1st two core values – life and personal development. During my 2nd turning point, I incorporated the emotional aspect of life and energy healing. This is also when I deeply felt the next two core values – love and peace. In my 3rd turning point, I learnt astrology and aligned with the reality of life. This is also when I experienced freedom and joy, the final two core values.
I am grateful for all my life experiences. I am grateful to my exes.
I know that anyone can become a better version of them, anyone can transform their rock bottom to a turning point, anyone can achieve their goals and anyone can live their dream life. The question is, are you going to say yes to personal development? It took 7 years for me to graduate from my personal development journey because I had to find the answers myself. It doesn’t have to take that long for you because I have the answers to your problems. Say yes to personal development and join Personal Development Gateway to receive your free personal development gift now.
L💚ve,
Nadeera Wanigasooriya
(Founder, Personal Development Coach, Energy Healer, Emotional Healer, Astrologer at Personal Development Gateway)
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